Amanda Sanders
Amanda Sanders
NYC's Top Fashion Consultant & Personal Shopper

This is the best way to get
revenge on your ex

By Raquel Laneri   December 19th, 2016


Barbara Ballinger had been married for 29 years when her husband announced he was leaving her.

“I was very embarrassed when it happened,” Ballinger, co-author of “Suddenly Single After 50: The Girlfriends’ Guide to Navigating Loss, Restoring Hope, and Rebuilding Your Life,” tells The Post. “I had gray hair, I had gained some weight, and I just hadn’t been paying attention to my clothing.”


Divorce pushed the Hudson, NY, resident to seek professional fashion help from an image consultant.

“They steered me to hipper, sexier clothing — like this sexy black Vivienne Tam dress I never would have bought before. I started wearing dresses and showing off cleavage for the first time in years.”

Almost 814,000 couples got divorced in the US in 2014, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and there’s money to be made from servicing their needs — from concierges who take care of tasks such as putting a couple’s home up for sale to matchmakers who cater exclusively to divorced people. That cottage industry now includes stylists, who say more divorced people are coming to them post-split to overhaul their image and regain their confidence.

Ballinger says the makeover gave her the mojo to dip her feet into the dating pool for the first time in decades — and the revenge factor didn’t hurt, either.

“When I found out how much my now-ex-husband was spending on his new apartment, I bought my first pair of Manolo Blahniks,” she says.

After all, looking good can boost frayed self-esteem. After her split with “The Voice” judge Blake Shelton, country singer Miranda Lambert got a sassy new hairdo and posted a selfie on Instagram with the caption, “What doesn’t kill you only makes you blonder.” Hilary Duff dyed her hair blue, and began sporting eye-catching sheaths for the paparazzi and posting bikini selfies just weeks after her divorce from hockey player Mike Comrie. Meanwhile, shows such as “Girlfriends’ Guide to Divorce” portray their characters in trendy leather jackets and sexy stilettos.

Amanda Sanders, a New York City image consultant whose clientele includes finance executives and stay-at-home Park Avenue moms, says many of the clients who seek her are going through a divorce.

“It’s the biggest time period that people come to me,” Sanders says. “I see women going through a divorce, they think about going blond, they think about cosmetic surgery, and they think about buying all-new clothes.”

Sanders, who charges a $250-an-hour flat fee for styling services such as closet overhauls and shopping trips, says more than half of her clients are divorced — a number she has seen grow over the last few years.

“I never expected divorcées to be such a big part of my business, but friends recommend friends [who are going through a divorce], and it just kind of happened,” she says.

Christina Wilson sought out Sanders in October after leaving an ex-husband in Miami and returning to Manhattan.

“After the divorce, I felt like I needed a fresh start,” says the 43-year-old Upper East Sider, who works in real estate. “It’s that feeling of ‘out with the old, in with the new.’ ”

Sanders went through Wilson’s wardrobe, chucking her outdated jeans and old “blah” turtlenecks. She outfitted her client in sleek leather pants, sexy knee-high boots and colorful patterned frocks.

“Even though it’s just aesthetics, it actually changes the way you feel,” says Wilson. “It really put me in the mindset to start anew and move forward . . . and I get a lot of compliments.”

3 ways to revamp your look post-divorce

1. Invest in a last-minute date dress

Image consultant Amanda Sanders suggests a day-to-night frock — but not an LBD. “A brighter, jewel-tone cocktail dress feels feminine and flirty without being too revealing,” she says, adding that the jolt of color is an instant mood-lifter.

2. Don’t be sentimental

If you haven’t worn an item in at least two years, give it away. “Women are sentimental about their clothes, whether it’s something we wore to our rehearsal dinner or got on vacation. We tend to remember ourselves in Kodak moments wearing those clothes,” Sanders says.

3. Change one thing about your look

Pick one style habit that you’ve been clinging onto, and change it. That could mean swapping your glasses for contacts or getting highlights. “Sometimes changing something small on the outside can bring about that change that you want to feel on the inside,” says Sanders.